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The Art of Change : Simply Noticing
12 February 2014


Such a simple word and yet such a difficult thing to achieve.

As any New Year’s Eve advocate will testify, changing aspects of oneself is a very difficult thing to do. It’s as if the more we try to change ourselves, the more another part of us resists the change.

“Self-observation is the first step of inner unfolding”

- Amit Ray

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personal accountability : reclaiming our projections
12 February 2014


“Personal accountability is the life-giver, the thing that fills the soul with esteem and repairs it from the inside out.”

- Amy Larson


In the last post, we learned how we project thoughts and feelings onto other people in order to avoid feeling anxiety. One consequence of these projections is that we are constantly shrouding the other person with our fantasies and never see them as they actually are. This limits the amount of real contact we have with them and is the source of much misunderstanding in our world. Exploring the projections that you habitually make onto other people can be a very useful process in developing a more direct and authentic way of relating to others. …..read more

distorting reality : understanding projection
12 February 2014

Distorted Reality

“Our brain is mapping the world. Often that map is distorted, but it’s a map with constant immediate sensory input.”  

-  E. O. Wilson


One of our defining human characteristics is our ability to protect ourselves when we experience pain or fear. Whilst this feature has undoubtedly served us incredibly well in many situations, it is something which often distorts our ability to experience things as they actually are. …..read more