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The Art of Change : Simply Noticing
12 February 2014


Such a simple word and yet such a difficult thing to achieve.

As any New Year’s Eve advocate will testify, changing aspects of oneself is a very difficult thing to do. It’s as if the more we try to change ourselves, the more another part of us resists the change.

“Self-observation is the first step of inner unfolding”

- Amit Ray



The real truth about human change is that it is a paradoxical process, where:

“Change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not.”

- Arnold Beisser

What we know is that change does not take place when coercive attempts are made by the individual or by another person, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what one already is. When we fully invest ourselves in our current position, the possibility for change occurs.

So, if change is a paradox, how can we support ourselves to change? Well, we don’t actively try to change ourselves, we just learn how to observe ourselves in action. Simply noticing ourselves in the midst of action allows us to create some space between the situation we are in and our reaction to it. This allows us to start to see some of our habitual patterns of behaviour and to accept them with our judging.

Developing our ability to simply notice our own patterns in the midst of action is the single biggest gift we can give ourselves.

further reading

Self Observation – an in-depth examination of the much needed process of ‘self’-study known as self observation.

Taming Your Gremlin – this is a low-key but tremendously effective approach to banishing the tenacious, self-defeating aspects of your personality.

lightboxleadership.com – Self observation – change your thinking and overcome challenges

thebounceblog.coma simple way to bounce back from depression

www.gestalt.orgthe paradoxical theory of change


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